…and my suggestion is that basic respect is required. If you can’t show respect you shouldn’t be part of an online community. It is also entirely possible to “force” people to stop rudely bossing people around. You seem to have plenty of official moderators to make that happen. You just choose to allow it.
If you can force people to stop double posting and swearing you can force people to stop pointing out “small transgressions”. At best it muddles up the conversation.